You can't optimize love or friendship

AI makes things faster, but meaningful relationships move slow and are better for it.

You can’t time-optimize friendship, nor love.

It is in the slow, unplanned, present moments that we find deep connection with each other and with ourselves.

Do not confuse sitting on your computers near each other the same as doing nothing together. Doing nothing is a luxury that all have access to and few partake in. Watching television, playing board games, building furniture, attending a party or event, or any number of planned activities is different than doing nothing. In this hustle culture, the invitation to “come hang out” has taken on a meaning of being counterproductive. The people I know—myself included (although I am only beginning to know myself)—crave a plan. Because to hang out is to allow time to whistle through our fingers.

People work hard now so they can do nothing later, or do nothing in planned bursts.

For relationships, doing nothing is vital.
And yet for many, it’s too expensive.

The only true waste of time is trying to optimize doing nothing.